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The Fishing Story: Why Embarrassment Should Never Steal Your Voice

Apr 2 / Dr. Janice R. Love

I can still remember the feeling of wet, muddy clothes clinging to my skin. The smell—oh, the smell—was worse than the fish I had caught that day. And the sound of my sisters giggling about it in the car ride home? Let’s just say I wasn’t exactly in the mood for laughter.

 

It all started with a simple high school English assignment. Mrs. Orme, my teacher, asked us to write a personal story. At first, I struggled. What could I possibly share? As an overachiever, I wanted to write something good, something that would earn me a decent grade.

 

But the only story that kept coming to mind was one I didn’t want to tell.

 

When I was around ten years old, my sisters and I had gone on a fishing trip with our Godmother. We had been asking to go fishing with her and she finally decided to honor our wishes. It had been a beautiful day, and to my surprise I was the first one to catch a fish. However, my “I caught one first” victory was short-lived because, in all my excitement, I slipped and fell right into the lake. Note: this was not a lake that was created to swim in.

 

Now, before you worry, no—I wasn’t in any danger of drowning. The water was shallow. But I was soaked, covered in mud, and completely miserable. And my sisters? Well, they had a field day at my expense. The long ride home was filled with laughter—most of it at me—while I sat there, smelling like muddy water and fish, wishing I could disappear. I wanted to go home, take a bath and go straight to bed. Thank God, my Godmother had a towel for me to sit on.

 

The last thing I wanted to do was relive that humiliation on paper. But something in me knew that this was the story I had to tell. So I did. I poured my heart into every word, recreating the scene, the emotions, and even the smell in vivid detail.

 

When the grades came back, I was shocked. 
98% A+

But more than the grade, it was Mrs. Orme’s words that stuck with me. “You are a great writer,” she said. “You have a future in writing.”

I had no idea at the time how prophetic her words would be.


The Power of Sharing Your Story

Looking back, I realize something powerful: telling that embarrassing story changed my life. It was my first taste of storytelling—the real, raw, personal kind. The kind that makes people feel something.

And yet, how often do we let fear—especially the fear of embarrassment—keep us from sharing our truth?

We hesitate because:

·      What if people laugh?

·      What if they judge me?

·      What if I don’t tell it perfectly?

But what if, instead of focusing on our own discomfort, we thought about what our story could do for others?

·      What if your story helps someone feel less alone?

·      What if it gives someone the courage to keep going?

·      What if it teaches a lesson someone desperately needs to learn?

 

I know this struggle intimately because some of the hardest stories I’ve ever told weren’t about falling in a lake. I’ve shared what it was like to survive divorce—twice—to the same husband. I’ve talked about the realities of marrying a man with six children and navigating the challenges of being a stepmom in a blended family. I shared the difficulties of being a pastor’s wife and finding my own voice. These were my truths, but I wrestled with fear. What would people think? Would they judge me? Would they understand?

 

It would have been easier to stay silent. To keep my struggles, my lessons, and my growth to myself. But here’s what I’ve learned—when we dare to tell the truth about our lives, we open doors for others to heal, to learn, and to grow.

 

I have seen firsthand how my willingness to be transparent despite what I thought was embarrassing has encouraged others who felt alone in their own challenges. My story—messy, complicated, and real—became a source of comfort, guidance, and hope for people who needed to hear that they weren’t alone.

When we refuse to share, we rob others of the wisdom, encouragement, and connection our stories can offer.


How to Move Past the Fear and Tell Your Story Anyway

1️.  Accept That Vulnerability is Powerful
Your most impactful stories aren’t the polished, picture-perfect ones—they’re the raw, real, and sometimes messy ones. People connect with honesty, not perfection.

 

2. Start with a Small Story
If telling your whole life story feels overwhelming, start with one moment. Just like I started with “The Fishing Story,” you can begin with something simple that carries a deeper lesson.

 

3. Focus on Who Needs to Hear It
Instead of worrying about judgment, ask yourself: Who could be helped by this? When we shift from self-consciousness to purpose, the fear loses its grip.

 

4. Write It Down
Even if you’re not ready to share publicly, put it on paper. Writing helps you process, reflect, and find the meaning in your experience.

 

Your Story Matters—Tell It.

I never imagined that one embarrassing fishing trip would lead me to a life of storytelling. But it did. It taught me that even our most uncomfortable moments can shape us—and maybe even inspire someone else.

So, what’s your story?

I challenge you today: write it down. Even if it feels awkward. Even if it’s unfinished. Even if you’re scared. And most of all even if it is embarrassing, don’t let it steal your voice. Because someone out there needs to hear it. And you just might change a life—starting with your own.

Blessings,

Dr. Janice R. Love


Pearls Perfected Institute

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