We’ve
all been there—sitting on an idea, a story, or some expertise that we “know”
could make a difference in someone else’s life. But for some reason, we never
take that next step. We don’t write the eBook, don’t share our knowledge, and
don’t ask for help when we feel stuck. It feels like a personal problem, right?
“I’ll figure it out eventually,” we tell ourselves.
But
what if I told you that not asking for help is actually a bit selfish? Hear me
out.
Have
I ever told you about how I let fear keep me from doing the very thing that
could help so many others? Even though I had plenty of experience as an author,
I struggled to write my third book. I kept telling myself, “I’ll get to it
soon,” but deep down, fear and doubt were holding me back. I worried that maybe
my story wasn’t important enough, or that no one would really benefit from what
I had to share. I stayed stuck in that cycle for way too long.
Then,
during a conversation with my coach, she hit me with some tough love. In a
not-so-kind way, she said, “The longer you wait to write your story, the more
selfish you’re being. There are so many women out there who need the help only
you can provide!” Me, selfish? That word stung, but as she explained further, I
realized she was right.
That's
when I remembered the scripture, Luke 12:48, “To whom much is given, much is
required.” It hit me like a revelation. I had been given so much—strength,
resilience, and the wisdom gained from navigating my own struggles. That wasn’t
just for my benefit; it was a gift meant to be shared. I realized that holding
back my story wasn’t just about fear—it was about responsibility. I had a duty
to pay it forward, to help others who were facing the same challenges I once
did. It became clear that my journey could serve as a guide for others, and it
was time to stop hesitating and start giving back by telling my story.
Yes,
my story—my journey—wasn’t just for me. It had the potential to inspire,
uplift, and offer guidance to other women facing the same struggles I’d
overcome. By holding back, I was depriving them of that help. It was a hard
truth to swallow, but that conversation became the turning point I needed. I
stopped letting fear dictate my actions and finally got to work. And now, I’m
committed to helping others do the same.
Everyone
has a story. It could be about overcoming hardship, achieving something
extraordinary, or just learning from the everyday struggles that life throws
your way. Whether you know it or not, someone “needs” to hear your story. Your
insights, your perspective, your unique way of solving a problem could be the
thing that changes someone else’s life for the better.
But
here’s the catch: if you keep that story locked away because you’re afraid to
ask for help, you’re robbing the world of something valuable. You’re
withholding knowledge that could inspire, inform, or help others overcome
challenges. And that’s why not asking for help is selfish—not in a malicious
way, but in a way that limits your potential impact.
We
often hesitate to ask for help because of pride, fear, or the belief that we “should”
be able to do everything ourselves. Here’s what typically holds us back:
1.
Fear of appearing weak or incompetent – We think, “If I ask for help, people
will think I can’t handle this.”
2.
Perfectionism – We convince ourselves, “I’ll ask for help once I’ve figured out
more on my own.”
3.
Underestimating the value of collaboration – Many of us don’t realize how much
faster and better things get done with guidance and support.
But
asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness. In fact, it’s one of the most
empowering things you can do. Whether it’s seeking advice from someone who’s
already done what you want to do, signing up for a course, or attending a
webinar, reaching out is the key to moving forward.
Think
about the problems you’ve faced and overcome. Chances are, someone out there is
dealing with the same challenges right now. What if your eBook could be the
roadmap that helps them solve their problems faster, easier, or with less
stress?
Not
asking for help could mean delaying or even never sharing that roadmap with the
world. And that’s not just holding you back—it’s holding others back, too.
You
don’t have to navigate this journey alone. When you ask for help, you’re
opening yourself up to faster progress, better insights, and a more refined
finished product. And the sooner you ask for help, the sooner you’ll be able to
share your eBook with the people who need it most.
Asking
for Help is the First Step
If
writing an eBook has been on your to-do list but you’re unsure where to start
or you’ve felt overwhelmed by the process, it’s time to ask for help. I know
how difficult it can be to get started, which is why I’m offering a FREE Webinar to guide you through the exact steps to get your eBook written in just 15
days.
During
the webinar, you’ll learn:
·
How
to define your eBook’s purpose
·
How
to choose your topic based on your personal journey
·
How
to structure your story to make an impact
·
How
to identify the problem your eBook solves
·
How
to present actionable solutions
·
How
to create a professional, eye-catching cover
Take
Action Now. Stop
putting off the help you need to get your eBook out into the world. Someone is
waiting to hear your story and benefit from your knowledge.
Join
me for my FREE webinar, "From Idea to eBook in 15 Days: Transform Your
Story into a Problem-Solving Guide, and let’s get that book written!
📅 Date: Thursday, October 17th
⏰ Time: 7:00 p.m. CST
Click
here to register: https://streamyard.com/watch/QZMJGJHQYJHG
It’s
not selfish to ask for help—it’s selfless because it enables you to share your
gift with others. Let’s make your eBook a reality before the end of the year.
Blessings,
Dr. Janice R. Love